5 Exercises for Building Confidence

We all have times in our lives when we feel insecure, lack confidence and doubt our decisions. Having spent a lifetime pouring over fashion magazines, I’ve realized it’s time to break the mold. Step out of the box with building confidence. I’m giving you exercises to build confidence that a fashion magazine won’t tell you.

These are small exercises that create big actions that over a period of time and working on yourself are going to help you build your confidence. Let’s do this.

1. Dress for the person you want to be. I know I’ve said in the past to dress for the job you want, not the job you have. Unless you love your job of course. Do you dress to be safe? Safe shapes, safe colors? Or are you embracing who you fully are. Nothing makes a woman more confident than to be completely authentic. Dress to please yourself and not anyone else.
2. Take really bad selfies. What? I know I just had a blog and video on how to take great selfies. If you still don’t want to get your picture taken then maybe you are disconnected with what you see in the mirror. The more you start to connect with your reflection, the greater chance of you finding things you love about you. It doesn’t matter if it is the mirror or a selfie – take a good look at the amazing woman starring back.
3. Do something for you that is not related to your work or a goal. We get so busy it is hard to do things just for the fun of it. Go on an excursion to a consignment shop, or furniture store you love. Not to purchase stuff but to stroll, look around, and enjoy the inspiration. Maybe go outside in the pouring rain, start painting, make your own body scrub with oil, lavender and sugar. If you don’t know what you find fun, then start exploring.
4. Stop apologizing. Have you noticed how much women say “I’m sorry.” Someone can bump into you and you say “I’m sorry.” I’ve said it to my dog and cat before. I hate calling someone and I say “Did I catch you at a bad time” and they will say “I’m eating” and then I say I’m sorry and I shouldn’t be. If you are eating, please don’t answer the phone. Over saying “I’m sorry” is a confidence crippler.
5. Show up. You have every right to show up, to exist, and do the things that make you happy. You are not here to shrink, to keep your thoughts to yourself, and to look at the ground when you walk. Don’t hide your brilliance or shy away from what makes you unique. Surprise yourself.

You don’t need a magazine, the latest trends, or the color of the year to make you shine. You are so amazing as you are. With a bit more confidence you will be on top of the world. Cheers to you!